tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724540560854480089.post5543616963464066157..comments2023-10-22T07:52:17.083-05:00Comments on Jennifer Juniper: Let Dead Dads LieJennifer Juniperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09819288000523867214noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724540560854480089.post-29858733707059580902011-06-12T21:55:22.788-05:002011-06-12T21:55:22.788-05:00All I can say is that I'm sorry. that should h...All I can say is that I'm sorry. that should have never been.The Bipolar Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05449793830455116918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724540560854480089.post-18255810389320886422011-03-22T09:55:59.350-05:002011-03-22T09:55:59.350-05:00You are AWESOME!!!You are AWESOME!!!Aunt Crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14797824011406383879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724540560854480089.post-15578220916044964392011-03-22T06:33:54.752-05:002011-03-22T06:33:54.752-05:00Big, big hugs, my friend. Reading that really mad...Big, big hugs, my friend. Reading that really made my heart hurt.Attila the Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02158308703617226652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724540560854480089.post-40518501744514520992011-03-21T13:47:16.846-05:002011-03-21T13:47:16.846-05:00Dear Jennifer,
I know that I havent been around m...Dear Jennifer,<br /><br />I know that I havent been around much but I saw this post and had to comment.<br /><br />I too was sexually abused as a child. Like you I do NOT let it define me and I live my life to the best of my abilities. Yes, the experience fucked me up, so to speak, I have REAL issues with trust and forgiveness, as well as sexual relationships as an adult. I blame myself almost daily for what happened to me. It was NOT my father, but my grandfather. He sexually molested me from the age of 3 until I was about 13. When I was 13 he was diagnosed with Prostate cancer and died a few years after that. HE GOT WHAT HE DESERVED. Even though he was remorseful in the end, it doesnt matter!!! He had it coming. I was not the only one that he tried it with. I did my best as a child and pleaded that he not touch my younger sister that he just come to me when he wanted something. So as a child, I took on the world and have carried it my WHOLE life! Im glad that he only bothered me and that he left the others alone, but what I am really really proud of is the fact that he died knowing that he was getting dealt the hand that he deserved!!!! I cried at the funeral, not because he was dead but because I was SOOOOOO happy that he was dead and would never do that to another person! I was HAPPY because I would never have to explain to my kids why they could not be alone with their great-grandfather. I was happy that he DIED.<br /><br />I still blame myself for what happened and that I didnt try to speak up and stop it. I am SO envious of the people like you who had the GUTS to STOP WHAT WAS HAPPENING!!!!! I just want to tell you that when the truth did come out about what he had did to me.....things got really rough. My mother made me look at a picture of him almost daily and talk about how much that bastard LOVED me. I HATED that!!!!! Dont worry about the journal.....its a coping mechanism for YOUR MOM not you!!! She wants to see him as a regular person, instead of the filthy beast that he was. Talking about Fantasy Football, to her was his way of letting her know that he was normal. That JOURNAL is NOT for you, so you just put that back on the desk for your mother and put it out of your mind. He affected a LOT of people with his perverted choices, and they all have a way to cope. Yours is by KNOWING that he will never do that ever again! He is dead honey! He will never hurt you again!!! I am proud of you for taking the time to read the Journal and I am soooooo proud of you for finding a man like Bean that is so loving and just what you need, and I am even more proud of you for raising your children and being the kind of woman that I can look up to! Whether you know it or not.....you really are an inspiration to people! Especially me!<br /><br />Now, just take that beautiful smile that you have and show it to the world because you are strong and beautiful and you deserve the BEST of everything :)<br />Luv ya chicka<br />DaniDani Honeycutthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334684242875344505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724540560854480089.post-30281622107445953522011-03-21T10:48:38.148-05:002011-03-21T10:48:38.148-05:00I'm so sorry! I can somewhat relate. My father...I'm so sorry! I can somewhat relate. My father was not a pedophile, but he was extremly abusive. He abused my mom for 22 years (she was with him starting at age 16) and us kids too. I'm the oldest of 5. He verbally and physically abused us, as well as controlled our every move (my mom had to make $70 last a week for groceries, gas, and any other needs that came up -- for a family of 7!).<br /><br />My mom got the courage to leave him in 2001. She talked to the women's shelter and the police and secretly filed for divorce and a restraining order, which were then served to him, completely surprising him.<br /><br />He never apologized, because in his eyes he did nothing wrong. People like him can somehow "justify" their actions. He never apparently threw my mom down on the ceramic tile, causing permanent back and hip injuries. He never took my 5-year-old brother and slammed his head against a door frame, causing him to need stitches (and to lie to the doctor and say he was just fighting with me). He never called us ugly and stupid or spit in our faces. He never took his weight-lifting belt and whipped us repeatedly for simply making too much noise. He never threatened my mom's life if she were to ever leave him.<br /><br />In his mind he did NOTHING wrong. People like him are sick in the head. They are broken. They will never get it, becasue they don't think rationally like you and I.<br /><br />I am just glad my mom got out. My father's grandma wasn't so lucky, and she was murdered in front of one of their children (before that sad SOB took his own life, leaving 3 kids orphans who would go from group home to group home).<br /><br />I hate that there are people like my dad in this world. I hate to say this, because I do feel guilt, but I have wished him dead plenty of times in my childhood. He only fathered me, he never was a dad.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00214456605607882879noreply@blogger.com